Joy can be found in everything

Looking to learn some fresh ways of making a busy life more fun, I decided to ask several friends for their suggestions. Here’s a recap of their responses:

One very wise friend reminded me that there is

always joy to be found in everything.

She’s right. I thanked her for the reminder. A change in my point of view has often changed my outlook from drudgery to joy.

The idea of having fun may sometimes seem far away or unreachable, especially when we feel too busy to take time to do any of the fun things my friends have mentioned. But I think this could be due to a limited view of what having fun means or under what conditions that fun is supposed to happen. Perhaps we need to broaden and expand our definition. My friends gave me more possibilities of fun to consider. I hope you’ll find their list helpful as well.

Finally, in the words of yet another thoughtful friend: “May we all find a little fun whenever we need it.” Maybe we could make our own fun by imagining our favorite song playing while we dance up the stairs. I can just imagine my daughter dancing up the stairs on her way to teach a history class. I still remember her doing pirouettes down the grocery store aisles when she was a very young girl. (Oh the FUN memories I have!!)

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10 Tips for Success in College and the Real World

Setting off for college brings more than academic change. With many young women using the experience to solidify their dreams, perspectives, self-worth and relationships, the first year of college marks a vital turning point in any young woman’s life. As a mother who has seen my own daughter blossom into a confident and driven “princess,” my mission now is to inspire other young women to command and rule their lives as they set out on their own life journey.

I’d like to give young women a taste of their empowerment with some free tips. Covering everything from self-worth and expectations to romance and the importance of savoring life’s special moments, these tips will help any young woman take on her world and become its “Queen.”

In fact, these tips will be helpful to women of all ages and stages in life!

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Get ready to win big this summer

In celebration of my new book

The Queen of Damn Good Advice

I’m launching a

Reader photo contest!!

And the 10 top photos will get some great prizes:

1st place gets $100 gift card to 

2nd place gets $50 gift card to 

3rd place through 10th place gets a “Queen” tote bag full of surprises


On the front cover of my latest book you see the silhouette of a girl reading the book. I want to inject some life into what she stands for by inviting readers to submit pictures of them reading the book in some sassy and creative settings. Those submitting the ‘top ten’ images will win an exclusive tote bag filled with ‘Queen Surprises’ and the top two winners will also receive an Amazon gift card.

Submit as many photos as you like in different settings as it can increase your likelihood of winning a prize.

Just “like” my Facebook page and post your images there with the hashtag #DamnGoodAdvice.

Then use my website contact form to tell me you posted your image on Facebook and tell me your name, email and mailing address (in case you win I need that information to send you your prize!).



Read the contest rules here.

I can’t wait to see your photos!

You have until August 31, 2013 to submit.

And for the record, this contest is for women of all ages and stages in life!

What's playing on your radio?


Perhaps not the best way to word my blog title! The only time I actually listen to a radio these days is when in my car. We don’t get good radio reception in the countryside where I live. So most of my music listening is on my iPhone. And my main time to listen to music on my iPhone is when I’m taking a walk.

Here’s a secret for any man reading my blog: You can learn a lot about a woman’s state of mind by the songs she listens to. Or at least the songs I select seem to pretty much sum up what’s going on in my mind or life.


“A thousand years” by Christina Perri  ~ I’m thinking about the love of my life in a forever, sexy, loving kind of way.

“All I want to do” by Sugarland ~ I’m ready for some snuggling with my hubby when I come in from my walk. (Or maybe I’m thinking about the snuggling we did before my walk!)

“Cowboy Casanova” by Carrie Underwood ~ Some man is in trouble!

“Daydream believer” by The Monkees ~ I’m reminiscing about some happy times in my youth.

“Ladies love country boys” by Trace Adkins ~ I’m feeling playful and want to go out on a date with my hubby.

“Where I come from” by Alan Jackson ~ I’m relishing in my southern roots.

“Good girl” by Carrie Underwood ~  I’m thinking about advice to give my daughter.

“Then” by Brad Paisley ~ I’m hoping my hubby thinks of me in this way.

“Walk this way” by Aerosmith ~ I need to do some power walking and need some motivation.

“Something more” by Sugarland ~ I play this song every walk. It means change is in the air!

I think that may be because of lyrics like “I need a little less hard time” and “I need a little more bliss” and “I got things to do before I die” and “I believe that happiness is something we create.” Playing this song means I have some ideas brewing to totally rock my world! So my family and friends had better watch out! Something new is coming soon!

How to keep making progress

When people stop learning, stop wanting or trying to learn, or start believing they have nothing to learn, they cease to make progress. Without progress, there is no life, no growth. At the very least, life becomes less interesting.

Perhaps learning is a habit. Like some good habits, such as eating a balanced meal or exercising, we can get lazy or negligent. Our laziness and negligence become bad habits that are difficult to break—but not impossible. I’d like to think that any bad habit could be broken with due diligence and perseverance, and that good habits can be created and maintained in the same way. Gandhi’s words,

“Learn as if you would live forever, live as if you would die tomorrow”

tell us there is always more to learn and we should digest as much as we can each day. It is never too late to comprehend and master something new. The old adage “practice makes perfect” is always true regardless of our age.

Daughters of the world, be wise women.

Approach each day with this question: “What can I learn today?”

You may not know what you want or need to learn, but I believe there are countless options and infinite possibilities when you’re open and ready to discover them.

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